I am Clueless
Ok. I need help and I hope someone out there has a solution. This is not a weighloss problem but I am at my wits end and I really don’t know what else to do. My son started first grade this year. He has always loved school and he did at the first of this year. Our school year started August 6. The first few weeks went great. But about 4 weeks ago or so his stomach started to hurt every night and every morning. This went on then about 3 weeks ago he has started to cry. So I sent the teacher an email we got together with the counselor and she said he has a lot of friends no problems with them, no problems with his work. He is in AC classes. (Accelerated) No problems at all with that. The problem we think is he is pushing himself where he thinks he can’t get anything wrong. (First grade is a lot different now days than when I was in school) We aren’t pushing him we have just tried to teach him to work hard and do the best he can do. The teachers feel that this is something that he is doing to himself. My husband and I have talked to him, the teachers have talked to him, the counselor and even his grandmother. This has been a week and he is still crying not wanting to go to school. It is making it so hard on me. I am to the point I don’t want to get up in the mornings. I know the ordeal we are going to go through. If I feel this way I can only imagine how he feel. My goodness he is only 6 years old. I just don’t know what else to do for him. I hope someone has some ideas. I am clueless. I have done everything I know to do. I just keep encouraging him. Letting him know that we are behind him. The Dr yesterday put him on Zantac 75 for 2 weeks to see if that will help him anyway. But noone really has any ideas what else to do. Thank you for listening. :0)
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Don’t put him on medication, I think you should try having him concentrate on going to school, like for example, tell him if he goes to shool all week long without crying, and explain that he doesn’t have to be perfect in school. He can pick any place he wants to go on Saturday, to the park, Chuck E. Cheese, fav. restaurant.
This worked for a kid I knew, but it was different he didn’t want to eat and he kept wetting his bed, so his parents tried a reward system to see if he would concentrate on getting the reward and get his mind off the other problem.
I hope everything works out for you and I hope you don’t have to put him on meds, unles it’s absolutely necessary.
Have you talked to him.Is anything bothering him outside the classroom. Playground, bus, walk to/from school. basically away from adult eyes I ask because my neice had a similar problem (I take care of her on days her Mom works) She loved school but then in the 2nd grade started getting tummy aches and didn’t want to go to school. You mentioned talking to the teacher and to the councelor My SIL did the same thing. But it wasn’t untill I took my neice to Mcdonalds one day and we had a heart to heart. come to find out a couple of older kids were bullying her on the bus. Teacher and Councelor obviously didn’t see it because it didn’t happen when adult were around. and she was afraid to tell anybody because they had threatened her if she did. We managed to work it out and things are better now She hasn’t had anymore problems since. good luck I hope things work out soon.
Keep the communication open, maybe spend more “fun” time with him? The best thing I think is to just be there when he needs to talk. Worked with my daughter. Will keep you in my prayers, Huggs!
I just wanted to thank everyone for the comments!! I will just keep talking to him and letting him know that if there is something going on he can tell me. Maybe one of these days he’ll break and spill the beans.:0) Why do kids have to grow up so fast!! It was so much easier when he was a baby. They don’t stay that way very long anymore do they??!! :0( Thanks again everyone!!
Does he have an anxiety issue? That can definitely cause stomach discomfort. Just finding ways to play and relax and find fun at home might help ease some of that. NOT sure, just a thought.
Perhaps is not the courses that are causing the problem…are you sure there’s not something else going on? Children at this young age, no matter how bright, have trouble expressing their feelings and their fears, I sincerely hope nothing more serious is going on, but it doesn’t sound good. I hate to worry you more than you already are…perhaphs a child psychologists is in order. I wish you much strength during this difficult time and I pray nothing really serious is going on, other than a manifestation of school-related stress.
my little cousin had some what similar issues. we later found out he has anxiety. it runs in the family but i guess we were all pretty shocked to see it start at such an early age. he refused to go to school. my aunt started do a reward type thing every weekend to motivate him that whatever he doesnt feel like sharing and hes holding inside if he gets through it he will be rewarded. seemed like few months down the road he finally got adjusted and he calmed down. poor thing hang in there mom.
HI Tanis!
Thanks for the messages- Hey, isn’t it time for you to write something in your blog? From what I can see it’s been awhile! Hope you’re doing well with your goals!
~Jenn
HI Tanis-
I’m so sorry about your son. I’m a teacher, but I’m also a mom- my oldest is 5 (young 5). Please keep in mind that it is not necessary for your son to be in the accelerated class. I would recommend putting him back in a normal classroom situation. I can’t believe I’m just reading this now. Or, try getting him involved in something else like extra art classes- art it theraputic and might calm his nerves. I can try to recommend some in your area if you’d like. At 6, he should not be this stressed out- it will cause bigger problems when he gets older. I would definetly try to get him in another program. Hope this helps.
Jenn
How is your son doing now? I sure hope things are better now. Wendy